Workshop Descriptions

Delve deeper into your relationship with one of our sacred sexuality workshops.

The comfort of participants is our number one concern. We maintain a strong respect for personal boundaries. Students are accepted by personal referral from previous students. These workshops are for couples only; couples in our classes remain exclusive. Our instructors will only touch each other during class. Our focus and intention is on healing our physical and emotional bodies, and on bringing more joy into our lives. We want everyone to leave with renewed intimacy, passion, and commitment to their relationship with their partner.

Level One Aroused Bodywork:
Qi Release

Rivers of Love Qi Release is a Way (Dao) of deep tissue bodywork given as a gift to our partner during lovemaking. Using the physiological changes that occur during arousal and the natural adaptability of our muscles and tendons, we shift the restrictive physical and emotional patterns that prevent us from experiencing joy in our lives. Our Level One class is an introduction to this ceremonial art of gifting our partner with therapeutic and healing bodywork during sexual arousal.

This introductory class creates the foundation for all other levels of the work. Couples learn the basic principles of giving intimate therapeutic bodywork to each other in a safe and healing environment.

No previous experience with massage or bodywork is necessary; we cover the underlying principles and techniques necessary to do this work effectively with your partner, as well as its’ energetic and philosophical underpinnings. The bodywork follows the natural patterns of the “muscle channels” that course throughout the body, with each technique addressing a specific area.

Designed to boost health and increase vitality, these techniques can alleviate physical ailments as well as establish a structural platform from which to experience deeper levels of pleasure.

Level Two Aroused Bodywork:
Sexual Qi Gong

Qi Gong (also called Dao Yin) is the ancient Chinese art of using breath and movement to enhance health and peace of mind. When Qi Gong is experienced in an intimate way with our partner, profound energetic experiences can result.

In Rivers of Love Sexual Qi Gong, the breath is used to open the joints and tissues of the body to increase flexibility and move energy through the meridians. When combined with deep tissue bodywork during lovemaking, this ability is multiplied many times, resulting in deeper levels of passion and physical harmony.

With this harmonious exchange, the natural erotic joy between partners can blossom; and intimacy and bonding can become more nourishing and satisfying.

Level Three Aroused Bodywork: Meridian Energetics

Meridian Energetics begins where the previous levels leave off, combining Qi Release Qi Gong and specific visualizations applied along the meridians of the body.

Each meridian has a specific energetic flow. Using breath and bodywork we can enhance and expand this flow during lovemaking. Utilizing Chinese “Five Element” principles to energize us within each meridian, we can experience different “phases” of being. Each “element” governs a specific aspect of our health, psyche, and well being. We can use these principles to balance the elements within us and in our partner.

These techniques employ breath, massage, and visualization to bring us closer to our lover. Meridian Energetics moves beyond the previous levels, creating states that are both playful and ecstatic.

Level Four Aroused Bodywork: Advanced Techniques

Level Four techniques are for couples who are comfortable with the previous material and have put it into muscle memory. Included are techniques such as:

• hummingbird
• butterfly
• panther
• snake
• bear
• chrysalis
• grasping the serpent’s tail
• circling the flower
• north star
• the wishing well
• widening the well
• ten & two
• blossoming gate
• tiger and silk
• walking spider
• hummingbird & frog

Aroused Meditation

Aroused Meditation is mindfulness meditation for partners combined with sexual arousal. We teach two different forms of Aroused Meditation: Mindful Arousal and Erotic Will. We also teach a companion technique sometimes used at the end of a ceremony called Paliuli.

Mindful Arousal ~ Mindful Arousal is a ritualized ceremony in which partners give or receive sexual stimulation as a tool for expanding awareness of their inner world (interoception) and the outer world (exteroception).

Erotic Will ~ Erotic Will is the practice of using sexual arousal to align our unconscious mind with a desired outcome. When we link arousal and an outcome together in our nervous system we call it Anchoring or Operant Conditioning. Think of it as Pavlovian training for “System 1” (the unconscious mind). If we repeatedly anchor a desired outcome to an intense pre-orgasmic (or orgasmic) experience, our unconscious mind will soon associate that outcome with a very natural hunger for intense pleasure. It does not take long to condition this response. When that happens the unconscious mind begins to align itself in the world and generate behaviors in us that help to create this outcome.

Paliuli ~ Paliuli is a simple technique to re-absorb and re-direct erotic energy back into our cells. It is often done near the end of an Erotic Meditation ceremony or to re-calibrate the nervous system during lovemaking and to avoid a residual buildup of tension in the fascia and muscle channels.

Shadows of Love: Emotional Integrity

Each of our Extended Rivers of Love Seminars will include Shadows of Love material from the following modules with the goal of embodying Emotional Integrity in all our relationships:

Relationship Sanctuary ~ Relationship is a Garden • Becoming a Gardener • Tending the Garden as a Team • The Primacy of Personal Sanctuary • Individuation, Core Personal Values, and a Shared Mission

Sacred Yes Sacred No ~ Differentiation • Boundaries & Desires • Honest Appreciations & Clear Requests

Presence ~ Lucid Waking • Availability • Pressure and Release • Holding Sacred Space • Deep Listening • Following the Shen (Spirit) in the Body

Intimacy ~ Transparency & Authenticity

Integrity ~ Accountability, Self Confrontation, Self Soothing, & Embracing Shadow

Radical Ownership ~ Taking Complete Responsibility for Our Quality of Life

Relationship Sanctuary

(Note: For non-hetero and/or non-monogamous relationships, the following principles still apply. Feel free to modify and adapt as needed.)

The Relationship Sanctuary is a model for creating healthy and mutually nurturing relationships. Within the Relationship Sanctuary, each individual in the relationship is a Sovereign and has their own Personal Sanctuary.

The Personal Sanctuary is the character and structure of the individual whether they are in relationship with someone else or not. Each person has their own strengths & weaknesses, light & shadow, preferences & opinions. Each has their own individual childhood scripting and personal biases. Within the Personal Sanctuary, each individual is responsible for their own quality of life. Each person agrees to “do their own work”, as well as to be accountable, self confronting, and self soothing. Their “job” in the Personal Sanctuary is to attend to their core values and core needs, as well as to be self reflective concerning their personal integrity and behavior. A healthy relationship is dependent on the transparency and unwavering self honesty that make up a Personal Sanctuary. Without strong and clear Personal Sanctuaries the Relationship Sanctuary cannot thrive.

The Relationship Sanctuary is the area of clear agreements between the two sovereign individuals who are relationship. In the Relationship Sanctuary, each person’s job is to increase the quality of life for the other person without enabling them. Within the Relationship Sanctuary the other person’s happiness is their goal.

The foundation of all of these is Radical Ownership. Radical Ownership is the realization that each of us is always in any relationship by choice and we take radical responsibility for our quality of life as well as the quality of the relationship we co-create.

“One of the deepest manifestations of love is listening. And one of the greatest failures at the root of the downfall of every relationship is the failure to listen.”
– – Lonny Jarrett

When we do listen in relationship, we are most often listening to our own fears and desires, not to our partner’s truth.

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